For a person who is a self-proclaimed lover of gifting, I have to confess that there are some things I would hate to gift…and even hate to be gifted.While I haven’t been guilty of giving a bad gift for a really long time, like most of you I have been a recipient of bad gifts. I think for every perfect gift there are 10 bad ones!
So what makes something a bad gift? A look at the following 4 factors will give you an idea of what I’m talking about.
Commonness: This is one of the biggest and most common [pun intended:-)] mistakes people make. They pick up the most common or everyday item to gift. What makes a gift special to a person is its uniqueness. No one wants to have something the whole world has or is easily available everywhere. The list of things that fall into this category includes clocks, cup n saucer sets, vases, pen stands, key chains.
Think, just how many sets of the above can a person use? Some exceptions to the above could be a rare, antique clock or a hand-made/hand painted vase.
Usability/relevance: Once again, just how many clocks, clocks, cup n saucer sets, vases, pen stands, and key chains can a person use? The usability of the gift is also determined by the recipient. Of what use is: a set of kitchen knives to someone who rarely cooks, or a set of wine glasses to someone who is a teetotaler and doesn’t even serve wine to guests? But give them to a person who loves to cook and enjoys wine respectively and you have the recipe for the perfect gift!
Beauty/aesthetics: Lets accept this…an expensive gift doesn’t necessarily mean a beautiful one. You may have spent a fortune on buying a silk saree or a silk scarf but, if you’ve chosen one that’s over embellished and you gift it to someone who has a simple taste then she’s bound to find the saree or scarf garish or ugly. If you’re unsure about a person’s preference, please find out.
Giver’s choice: Last but not the least is what I call the ‘giver’s choice syndrome‘. People suffering from this will gift things they like or would like to be gifted without giving any thought to what the recipient would be happy to be gifted. So, a person who likes stuffed toys will go around gifting teddy bears even to people who think stuffed toys are for kids.
So, here’s my list of top 5 gifts to avoid:
- Pen stands
- Key chains
- Cup n saucer sets
Now that you know the 4 gifting factors that help you decide what not to gift, you are on your way to choosing the perfect gift.